Adversity & Pain Is Exactly What You Are Missing To GROW
Yuli Azarch | March 9, 2018 | No Comments on Adversity & Pain Is Exactly What You Are Missing To GROW
We live in a world where people are trying to avoid pain, adversity, and challenges.
But the thing is, those are exactly the things we need, and exactly the things that make you and myself grow.
You think you do not need pain?
I just finished reading The Millionaire Next Door, a book about self-made millionaires in the USA. They stated the following. Kids of millionaires who had everything in their childhood, actually did not end up becoming millionaires.
The kids who did not have everything. Who came from tough background and poverty. The ones who suffered a lot, and had to grind it out, and work really hard were the majority of the self-made millionaires.
Which is EXACTLY why they became millionaries and sustained it.
You are not alone
I am also trying to avoid pain many times. I think we all do. It is natural. However, as Steve Jobs, beautifully said in his popular commencement speech: “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.”
Only retrospectively you can understand how a certain pain helped you grow, or helped you become better, or helped you make some better decisions in life. At the moment, you cannot see it. It is PAINFUL.
One of the reasons that made me start an online business, travel the world, and change my life radically from A to Z, was having a lot of pain.
It goes back 10 years ago
When I was 17, I started having back pain. I had 60 and 70-year-olds which were stronger and healthier than me, and I was just kinda starting my life, so it sucked.
My pain just got worse and worse. They wanted to operate on me. And I had a period where I could not even walk without pain, certainly could not run, could not lift weights, and could not bend my back. I was in pain from morning to night. Worse than that, being so young, most people were thinking I am faking it
I have had to live with that pain for many years until I found mitigating solutions. At that time I was not an entrepreneur. I was a regular kid, who went to school in Israel and then to the army. Having that kind of pain basically did not allow me to sit 8 hours on a chair, which was sort of the requirement in every single normal job at the world.
Since the normal path of society was basically closed to me, because physically I could not sit in front of a computer, or sit in general for 8 hours a day, I had to find other solutions, to live my life, and earn a living. That’s exactly what led me to the path of reading Tim Ferris The 4 Hour Week which was appealing to me, following with many examples of bloggers and others who have had their successful online businesses, without working too much.
Very quickly, through lots of pain, I started creating my first online businesses.
How the pain helped me?
Since I had limited time a day, to make my dream a reality, it forced me to become SUPER PRODUCTIVE and GET SHIT DONE without playing around when I am on the computer. I did not have time to play, I did not have time watch a movie on the computer, or to browse without aim.
I had SUPER LIMITED time. And I JUST HAD TO DO IT. My life was sort of on the line because I did not know what else I could even do as an alternative.
I am 27 today. Married, and traveling around the world for almost 4 years. Built two million dollar businesses during this period. My back pain started 10 years ago. To be honest, I am still feeling my back at times. I cannot say I do not have pain at all. But it’s not at those levels.
Looking back at those 10 years, my back has been one of the absolute biggest gifts life have given me – I need to thank it!
If not due to my back pain, there are high chances I would not become an entrepreneur, and live the life I am leading today. There are very high chances I would have gone and get a regular 9-5 day job. There are very high chances, I would go to study in university. Probably I would not be rushed to achieve things in life, or be as productive as I am, and basically be the person I am happy to be today. I was forced to become that person because I had no alternative.
If you think those were my thoughts at the time – You are dead wrong. 🙂 I hated my life, I hated the pain, and I hated every single reason which caused me to live with such pain in a young age.
Easy to look backward, eh? Not easy to see the future.
Do not run away from pain or adversities. Embrace them. They make you stronger and will help form the future you